Chaotic approach to life

Been a really busy two weeks for me. I just returned from Bangkok with June, my University partner cum great time friend.... It was relaxing and fun as usual since that grass is always greener on the other side ;) No matter how hot it was in Bangkok, it just seems to have lightened our pace when exploring every corner of it...

However, in the midst of all the fun, there are lots of issues to be attending to;

June and her H1N1 prevention act,

Alvin and all his advises,

Taking lots of self portrait in the hotel room

Left on the airport without J to pick me up,

Boss panic not knowing how to report to Principal,

Horrible new hair cut,

Car servicing and costing a huge bomb

etc.....

Somehow, from all these overwhelming issues... I came to this conclusion, Life is about problem solving, when one solved, another one arrive, till the point of time that things are not solvable and that should be a full stop to life...

One might say that it is pessimistic approach but of course, it depends on how one look at problem solving. There are students who are extremely eager to finish their mathematics equations while another one just feel like burning off the paper. Knife is created for one to use constructive while the other hand, it could be a lethal weapon to take life.

Anyway, just a simple thought in life and what kind of attitude is adopted to solve the problems is the key to all... Why cry over it and restrict one-self to a cubic when you could be in paradise looking forward to explore every corner of this island beyond horizon ;)

Why Love?

Was talking to my big brother a while ago and just found out that he is now single once again. Personal take, Relationship is like a 6 carat diamond;

* Seeing it, made you yield for it.

* Having it, made your heart beat race because of it.

* Maintaining it, made you worry of losing it.

* And losing it, made your heart bleed due to it.

Ironic isn't it. Seems like we are torturing ourselves! Besides trying to fulfill the prophecy of mankind, to fornicate, guess that it is right that no men an island. We all need companion after all. Someone whom we can share with, laugh with and cry with.

However, on the path to finding this "eternal" happiness, there are sure to have hit several pit holes. The course of true love never did run smooth... well said by Shakespeare! One thing that i strongly believe, if a couple could no longer be lovers, there is more reasons that they should be best of friends. Who else knows which side of the bed you usually sleep in and whether do you brush your teeth first before washing your face early in the morning? This has well been demonstrated and taught by my big brother.

Take home message for me, Ending should never be the end! Treasure everyone that leaves a small print in your dairy!

Blink blink... adventure at night!

Everyone is talking about clubbing... Is it really thatfun or is it just another unspoken criteria that once you engage in "clubbing" you are IN? I must admit that there are lots of pull factor to go clubbing but is it worth it to go thru it and ended up with an acne outbreak the next morning or being labelled as a walking zombie the next morning in the office! Something to ponder about.

Personally, I view that club is a good way to check out one's "market value" while doing a whole lot of cardio exercise. Of course, please focus on the dancing and not the beer or alcoholic beverages! It is quite a booster for your ego when you get to be "hit" by another person... However, one phenomenon in Singapore clubbing scene... you look, i look, then go back home alone! LOL... Guess that local people are generally more conscious about themselves and worry that their friends saw their witness their rendezvous attempt! Worst if you got rejected or given that kind of "please don't get close to me" kind of glance from your prey!

Besides that, someone once told me that we go clubbing is to get together with my friends... but there is practically 0% of communication where one have to fight against the beyond decibel reading type of music... And if you wanted to go there to look at cute gorgeous people, do one recall the phrase, good from far, far from good? Specially with such dim lighting and choking smokes... doesn't help much doesn't it? LOL

There are lots of good pointer about clubbing as well, sensure feeling of body rubbing against body (of course talking about the gorgeous one and not the flabby ones!), getting together with old friends, checking how many people looking at you and lastly, to see and to be seen!

Well, in conclusion, there are lots of reason why one loves to go clubbing but to the newly blossomed fellow, enjoy the night and sweat it all out! Why bother so much! hehe

Vulnerable Disappearance

In this highly developed infrastructures society of ours, it had evolved into a point where everyone holds a device called mobile phone. If one fine day, one cut off his/her mobile phone due to some reason and not informing all his/her friend, it is just like dissolving salt into water. That will be the last time you will be seeing this friend.

It is indeed vulnerable and if we look back, how many close friends of ours back in our school days had vanished from our scope of sight? Technology is meant to help us bridge this shortcoming and eases our daily lifestyle. On the other hand, it also evolved into a fine thin line that held all of us together.

I had been thru it and maybe going thru these made me freak out when someone close to you could not be reached. Not to mention, specially when you are not feeling too well and needed some attention.

Food for thought, Treasuring friendship is just a phone call away... how much do one agrees with it.

BBQ your Skin...

Tanning is really tough.. it always appear to be so relaxing in those western countries where you see babes and hunks lying on the bench, glowing! But in a tropical country like Singapore, it will more be like melting on the bench... sweating profusely while managing that amount of heat! Nobody ever says that beautiful is painless!

I went for a tan last weekend and indeed, after battling under the sun for a whole good 3 hours (kids don't try this at home), I managed to achieve that red lobster look with a hint of bronze beneath! However, no matter how much i tan, this red-bronze colour will still fade off after a week.

Living in this place we call earth for a good 30 years, there are lots of distraction and one can easily lose themselves. Although one can say that it is good to evolved themselves to suite the environment, but there should be certain core values in place. It is true that after a while, all the changes do not necessary make you a better person. I came to this society with a mind set of finding true love. But after knocking myself again and again on the hard concrete wall of betrayal, I started to become more cynical and eventually, became a player myself. But one fine day, my big brother, Lawrence, came to me and said, "No matter what is it, never lose yourself and have faith... the first time i saw you, you are this nice innocent boy, don't lose it!" It woke me up and I will always find my own "Centre of Gravity" and never deviate from it. Just like you, big brother;)

In conclusion, just like tanning, you can get red or brown or even black. But no matter how you change, you will have to return to your original tone. Always remember, if the colour never revert back to its tone, it is never a good thing, it might be a sign for skin problem. Big brother Lew, don't worry, I will not lose myself and always believe in love. Thanks for being there for me all these while!

Move that ass and squeeze some sweat!!!

Gyming is a real enjoyment... not only to maintain/create that nice figure of yours, but also a way to release out all the tension and stress from a day of hardwork. But when you are hitting the automated "runway" and the journey seems to be never ending while minutes turns to hours... When positivity exhausted out, this whole meaningful activities just became a torture... LOL

If one really think about it. The fact that we work out ass off at every gym session, besides the need to look nice and feel healthy after it, we are not the one who fully benefit from it. It is in fact the person whom we are with "enjoyed every part" of us.

A parallel illustration is that a girl who is granted with huge boobs, she was actually been condemned to be carrying that huge and heavy water bags in front of her for the rest of her life. Even when sleeping, that pressure that is instilled in her is so overwhelming! So how is the one who is lucky in this scenario? It is actually the husband! He don't have to carry that water bag walking around while he enjoyed every bit of it day in day out! Irony isn't it..

Definition of being NICE...

"But it wasn't the fact that she was immature or what and she is nice to me..." Sound extremely familiar to me... Yesterday night, while I was driving back, my University buddy called me. He needed a listening ear about his problematic relationship.

The phrase, "she is nice to me" strike me hard as I recalled that was one of the reason where it blind the logical me and petrol up the emotional me in most of my relationship. Words of wisdom from my good friend who are still stuck in Utah, the place with thousands of mountains, once said to me, that it is just so me to say that his person is nice and that person is nice etc. But what is really nice?

The word "nice" has been widely used that the significance has never been felt. Does buying a Gucci wallet for you define that person to be nice to you? Or is it when that person bring you out on a holiday makes him/her the best person in the world?

After playing the wild goose chase and knocking myself against the odds, bleeding profusely alone during my last battle with the highly anticipating love, i woke up from my idea... Nice to you should be a value coming from the heart, not thru the pocket. When a person is nice to you, he/she should empathize with you and having sweet gesture to relief you from tension. Walking into the room quietly when that person knows that you are sleeping, scratching your back when it is extremely itchy or just going to the temple to pray for your well-being when you are stress out. All these are just some actions that to most is negligible. However, it has to be triggered internally.

Personally, nice is a priority. A priority where you place another person before you. Conversely, it is so abstract that it can never be quantified.

This or that???

Since i was a kid, there is always decision to be made. Holding on to my favourite ice-cream with chocolate coating, thinking should i eat that lollipop instead. Being a Pisces myself, guess i am always challenged by decision making and never proved to be good at it. People might relate this to indecision nature of me, i never did doubt on that.

When you put down a checklist on what are the stuff that you are looking for, life always work in such a way that things doesn't necessary goes as planned. Maybe that is challenges! In regards to a checklist, who ever decide which goes first and which is the least prioritised? I do agree that balance is the key. Have one heard of the song "Too Much" by Spice girls? That is exactly what it meant.

Back to the issue on decision making... a friend scream at me,"so what is it that you want?"

Character versus Appearance; if a box with a really nice packing but with a lousy plastic tasting chocolate makes you hate yourself for digging that few dollars in your wallet to make payment. on the other hand, a pack of choco with really heavenly taste but thrown in the plastic bag only makes you wonder the hygiene level of this food...

Have one wonder why is it that mobile phones being designed with only 80% of the desired function? (Great camera but sucky outlook, or great organiser function but lousy auto focus) Well, guess it is only for you to anticipate for the next new launch. Ironic it may sound but i do believe that this is parallel to decision making.

Maybe it is true that being complacent is really a virtue. Knowing it and practicing it only makes one happier. Am trying and keeping my fingers and toes all crossed. However, at this point of time, Buddha, I am so not...