Buffet or Ala carte?

Life is like ripple on the sea, where it will have its high and low continously. One can say that it creates issues and problems to life, however, it gives life texture and making it something to look forward to. I do have to admit that upon facing the lows, digesting it might seems to be difficult and maybe, that is what created middle life crisis thingy! It is not the heat rash or any syptom that makes it such a big issue, but seriously it is the mental state of mind that stirred huge waves of emotion! Guess one has to look at the big picture and squeeze out some reflection on it and move on!

At this point of time, I guess that middle life crisis is still not anywhere near the corner. Life is really like a buffet spread to me... when you are rich at this very moment, you get to have the red carpet service that ushers you into the resturant where tons of food awaited for your pick. One might be overwhelmed by the variety that he/she losses touch of reality and might even becomes arrogant and egolistic. Temptation looks good but never necessary meant beneficial!

Anyway, back to the issue, it is not so idea if you are filled up with bread, way before your entrance to the buffet spread! So, the question now is that should one just stick to the holy bread for filling or enjoy the colourful buffet temptation while they are still capable of footing the bill? Wealth don't last forever - grab while you can, on the other hand, arrows from cupid is never a machine gun too!

Vegetarian tried to be!

Anger and frustration is never the solution to any problem. It will not in any way calm the situation down nor does it dissolve the resentment. So one has to find out what the root cause to this anger and find the antidote to it where everyone hope that it will blossom into the fairytale like “Happily ever after” kind of finale.

Easily said than done. Guess that coming out with the root cause isn’t that difficult for most adult with a fully developed brain structure and with a reasonable level of EQ. I came to sense what trigger off the aggravation.

Being a carnivore, if one tried to be a vegetarian, may it be said as leopard never did change it spot, the accumulated craving will never cease. It actually mounts up to a rage. Whenever a piece of char siew appeared in front of the vegetarian-tried-to-be, the disturbance nature started to be stirred. Hence, what can be done?

Could we take this conclusion to penalize those raged personnel that he/she is not meant to be pure and innocent? Or should one chief try to serve mock meat? Well, guess that these questions will never be solved and it will just play the classical wild goose chase till one is drained of exhaustion and maybe die of dehydration.

So, how does knowing the root solve anything? Maybe we should say knowing the root and having the courage to face it removed all annoyance. May the strength and wisdom be with us.

Wonder of eye to perception of beauty!

There is a common saying that goes something like this, "When you see a couple, normally, one will be extremely gorgeous while the other will be so the other extreme!" Well, no statistic had been proven but then again, it does look quite like the phenomenon. That sound so wrong but it just depends on the individual, what is pleasing to the eyes.

If one were to engage in a logical approach, it could be explained that the good looking partner must be getting too much attention that he/she knew exactly how risky it is to have a bf/gf that is that good looking. Thus, settling for a person with a stability out-look! lol

Personally, I really do think that things happen usually without any reason. You could find a person really ugly but after awhile, you will be like fly to rubbish (Since that you claim that the other party is really ugly, that must made you a fly!) It really get stuck into you. May it be you are just too used to that person hovering around you daily or just the fact that you started to appreciate that smile, gesture or even those brainless comments.

One thing for sure, it takes more than a million reasons why you hated someone, but it sure take just one unexplainable reason to love another. If love could be reasoned, it is functioned by the brain and never the heart. Whatever it is, I guess that that person must be really happy where I am now, even if he is facing a really hideous looking partner! LOL

Appreciation...

Is it a norm for human being to take one another for granted? Doing what is known as an usual will never be entitled for a merit prize then! Sound really illogical but in this brutal society of ours, it is basically a daily practice, especially to the person whom you regards him or she to be your closest ones.

Stars are always there, hanging brightly and sparking in the dark sky. However, how many of us really do lift our head up to appreciate their beauty? Looking up is just a gesture that barely uses much of our strength and yet, one always takes it for granted that they will always be there and what is so special about it, it is just star after all… That is really a sad comment and an approach to construct ones’ life.

A friend of mine back in Japan was always saying that his spouse do nothing and don’t really bother of him. And when I ask why is that so, he said that it had been 13 years! Is it getting too used to one another makes us adopt the negligible behavior to others? These are the group of people who required more attention instead.

If there is anyone out there who happens to read my blog and empathize with what I am saying here, it is time to show your close one that you care and appreciate it! May it be a kiss on the cheek or a warm hug, it does matter. When a crack is form, it will never be the same again…

Sweet simple things in life...

Just these few days, I had been thinking... life is always full of dynamic and intense activities and event, thus, why not take a seat back and indulges oneself in sweet simple gestures that will just bring a smile across your face?

There are many reasons for one to smile. The pace of life is just too rush that people tends to be blind by sweet Nob! Would love to share a list of things that brought a smile across my all rounded face for the past one week;

1) While driving off and saw my best friend waiting under the block to make sure that I drive off on the right direction!
2) An aimless and coffee shop-style chat with a close friend over the phone
3) Gossiping with a friend who is still stuck in Utah just about anything over MSN
4) Relaxing comedic play about Army daze
5) Lying at Subway having sandwich and eventually fall asleep on the sofa while playing with the computer...
6) Having a group of students who laugh at every single joke you cast!
7) Receiving nice remarks on how well you look over facebook... LOL

8) Getting a surprise present for someone whom you care for... Even that was at 11pm at night!

9) Walking at night with the best friend towards the car that is parked miles away....
10) Having your niece to come over and insisting on giving you a kiss on the cheek!

Well, guess that the list just goes on and on... So, back to what I am trying to say here, just because of one incident that might turn your mood around, do one find that it is worth it to turn down all the nice simple sweetness in life? Remember, it is after all your life and your day... So why choose to be upset? 1 enemy doesn't mean a downturn of your country... ;)

Friends and Buddies

In one's life, there are tons of passerby, ranging from Hi & Bye acquaintances to people who developed a close bond towards each other. However, one thing that I always believe, every paddle thrown into the pond to create a ripple, it basically increase the level a little higher. So life is about learning and to be learnt. People come and go, foe or partners, you still grow from them.

From a user of long time Friendster to nowadays Facebook, I realize a fact, people are not as unfriendly they looked. It is so sweet to receive a smile from a stranger or a nice morning from people whom most people might classified as Mr/Ms Tau! It is a sweet gesture and after all, no men an island!

There are people who said that it was all due to how you look that draw the strangers to you. I do admit that appearance does play a part. People only cares about people who cares about themselves! As said, eyes is the window to the soul, thus appearance should be the passport to the soul… It might be shallow and superficial but well, it is true! Of course everyone got friends who are unfortunate looking but in the first place, to have something more than just a friend, usually you will think twice won’t you?

There was a strange phenomenon that in Facebook, there are stranger who added you in as their friend list but never did bother to drop an email or even to say hi. The only conclusion that I can draw from this is like going to an arts museum. People love to appreciate fine arts but not to study it in details! Well, at least it is a positive self motivating action that people do like the pictures that I post inside my facebook! LOL

Whatever it is, one thing that I like to say is that cherish every moment of your life and of course, everyone who crosses your path in some ways. Drop them a note every now and then to tell them that you do care and think of them. May it be an email or a sms, friends are meant to be kept, not to be forgotten.

Alcoholic or/and Smoker?

I remembered back in the University days, I took a module called "Drugs & Society". It was really one of those modules that you could really benefit for life and the things that you learnt about is what you would encounter during your daily life style.

What defines an addiction? I recalled the lady AP was standing right in front and the only thing that she said, "An addiction = withdrawal Syndrome". When there is an addiction, there will be some recognizable features arising if the desired item has been removed.

Well, why am i talking about this in my irony blog? Yesterday night, I was out with my usual group of friends for a drink and a harsh discovery hit me when a important friend of mine started to get drank again and even lost a nice cigarette case that he got. He feels that he could only sleep better when he drinks, he chooses to hangout with his group of friends for a drinking session instead of picking up his loved ones, alcohol runs thru his vein weekly and he started to get high and eventually losses a certain level of reaction to things, causing the case to be missing. He might not be a hard-core alcoholic but yet again, do you ever says that having a small patch of rashes is not a symptom of skin problem?

He is a really nice and sincere guy but when someone who could not do without a cigarette between his fingers and required a weekly doze of alcoholic essence, it might indicate otherwise. This is indeed an irony, an irony that he wants to shower his concern for his loved ones but then again, what kind of love could he provide? Second hand smoke? Or an unconscious mind that holding a Chivas is like the status of liberty holding on to her torch? Both doesn't help.

What should I do? Talking about it doesn't help. Proposing solution isn't heed. Boycotting only made me look unreasonable. Well, maybe, one fine day, he will learn. Learning it the hard way and eventually the painful way where nicotine and alcohol will only deteriorate the situation.

Alcoholic + Smoker = Bleakness

Insecurity, for the cute or for the ugly???

I kind of getting sick and tired of people saying that it is really insecure to be dating a cute looking guy. Not that I am really that good looking, but all thanks to my well cultured Yak Essence and the well maintained Loh Cradle, I'm not unfortunate looking... LOL

There are two sides to a coin as always. One always say that to date a good looking guy is always a risk of him running away with other as competition is strong. Thus, insecurity is suppose to be with the less attractive looking one. However, has one thought of it the other way round?

If a person is good looking or cute, he should have a certain view on looks and appearance. Hence, if he is attracted to the other guy, the other guy should be really great looking as well. Besides, isn't it a bonus to be out with a cute or handsome looking boyfriend or husband where everyone will kind of jealous of you? Why should one always think of otherwise? If one is to say that a cute looking person is always "hit on" by others, it is in fact, true that he got hit on so many times that he feel like practically a "sex object" to others. Because of that, he should be the one who is insecure about himself as he had seen the worst of all. One just wanted a simple life and a simple partner, looks is secondary.

So, back to square one, one has to have faith in themselves, parents gave you the pleasant look, education gave you the logical thought and lastly, god gave you the heart, not to just keep the pulse from beating, but the faith to endorse.... to have faith in yourself.

Take home message, If you can tame a lion, that makes you stronger than a lion.

Chaotic approach to life

Been a really busy two weeks for me. I just returned from Bangkok with June, my University partner cum great time friend.... It was relaxing and fun as usual since that grass is always greener on the other side ;) No matter how hot it was in Bangkok, it just seems to have lightened our pace when exploring every corner of it...

However, in the midst of all the fun, there are lots of issues to be attending to;

June and her H1N1 prevention act,

Alvin and all his advises,

Taking lots of self portrait in the hotel room

Left on the airport without J to pick me up,

Boss panic not knowing how to report to Principal,

Horrible new hair cut,

Car servicing and costing a huge bomb

etc.....

Somehow, from all these overwhelming issues... I came to this conclusion, Life is about problem solving, when one solved, another one arrive, till the point of time that things are not solvable and that should be a full stop to life...

One might say that it is pessimistic approach but of course, it depends on how one look at problem solving. There are students who are extremely eager to finish their mathematics equations while another one just feel like burning off the paper. Knife is created for one to use constructive while the other hand, it could be a lethal weapon to take life.

Anyway, just a simple thought in life and what kind of attitude is adopted to solve the problems is the key to all... Why cry over it and restrict one-self to a cubic when you could be in paradise looking forward to explore every corner of this island beyond horizon ;)

Why Love?

Was talking to my big brother a while ago and just found out that he is now single once again. Personal take, Relationship is like a 6 carat diamond;

* Seeing it, made you yield for it.

* Having it, made your heart beat race because of it.

* Maintaining it, made you worry of losing it.

* And losing it, made your heart bleed due to it.

Ironic isn't it. Seems like we are torturing ourselves! Besides trying to fulfill the prophecy of mankind, to fornicate, guess that it is right that no men an island. We all need companion after all. Someone whom we can share with, laugh with and cry with.

However, on the path to finding this "eternal" happiness, there are sure to have hit several pit holes. The course of true love never did run smooth... well said by Shakespeare! One thing that i strongly believe, if a couple could no longer be lovers, there is more reasons that they should be best of friends. Who else knows which side of the bed you usually sleep in and whether do you brush your teeth first before washing your face early in the morning? This has well been demonstrated and taught by my big brother.

Take home message for me, Ending should never be the end! Treasure everyone that leaves a small print in your dairy!

Blink blink... adventure at night!

Everyone is talking about clubbing... Is it really thatfun or is it just another unspoken criteria that once you engage in "clubbing" you are IN? I must admit that there are lots of pull factor to go clubbing but is it worth it to go thru it and ended up with an acne outbreak the next morning or being labelled as a walking zombie the next morning in the office! Something to ponder about.

Personally, I view that club is a good way to check out one's "market value" while doing a whole lot of cardio exercise. Of course, please focus on the dancing and not the beer or alcoholic beverages! It is quite a booster for your ego when you get to be "hit" by another person... However, one phenomenon in Singapore clubbing scene... you look, i look, then go back home alone! LOL... Guess that local people are generally more conscious about themselves and worry that their friends saw their witness their rendezvous attempt! Worst if you got rejected or given that kind of "please don't get close to me" kind of glance from your prey!

Besides that, someone once told me that we go clubbing is to get together with my friends... but there is practically 0% of communication where one have to fight against the beyond decibel reading type of music... And if you wanted to go there to look at cute gorgeous people, do one recall the phrase, good from far, far from good? Specially with such dim lighting and choking smokes... doesn't help much doesn't it? LOL

There are lots of good pointer about clubbing as well, sensure feeling of body rubbing against body (of course talking about the gorgeous one and not the flabby ones!), getting together with old friends, checking how many people looking at you and lastly, to see and to be seen!

Well, in conclusion, there are lots of reason why one loves to go clubbing but to the newly blossomed fellow, enjoy the night and sweat it all out! Why bother so much! hehe

Vulnerable Disappearance

In this highly developed infrastructures society of ours, it had evolved into a point where everyone holds a device called mobile phone. If one fine day, one cut off his/her mobile phone due to some reason and not informing all his/her friend, it is just like dissolving salt into water. That will be the last time you will be seeing this friend.

It is indeed vulnerable and if we look back, how many close friends of ours back in our school days had vanished from our scope of sight? Technology is meant to help us bridge this shortcoming and eases our daily lifestyle. On the other hand, it also evolved into a fine thin line that held all of us together.

I had been thru it and maybe going thru these made me freak out when someone close to you could not be reached. Not to mention, specially when you are not feeling too well and needed some attention.

Food for thought, Treasuring friendship is just a phone call away... how much do one agrees with it.

BBQ your Skin...

Tanning is really tough.. it always appear to be so relaxing in those western countries where you see babes and hunks lying on the bench, glowing! But in a tropical country like Singapore, it will more be like melting on the bench... sweating profusely while managing that amount of heat! Nobody ever says that beautiful is painless!

I went for a tan last weekend and indeed, after battling under the sun for a whole good 3 hours (kids don't try this at home), I managed to achieve that red lobster look with a hint of bronze beneath! However, no matter how much i tan, this red-bronze colour will still fade off after a week.

Living in this place we call earth for a good 30 years, there are lots of distraction and one can easily lose themselves. Although one can say that it is good to evolved themselves to suite the environment, but there should be certain core values in place. It is true that after a while, all the changes do not necessary make you a better person. I came to this society with a mind set of finding true love. But after knocking myself again and again on the hard concrete wall of betrayal, I started to become more cynical and eventually, became a player myself. But one fine day, my big brother, Lawrence, came to me and said, "No matter what is it, never lose yourself and have faith... the first time i saw you, you are this nice innocent boy, don't lose it!" It woke me up and I will always find my own "Centre of Gravity" and never deviate from it. Just like you, big brother;)

In conclusion, just like tanning, you can get red or brown or even black. But no matter how you change, you will have to return to your original tone. Always remember, if the colour never revert back to its tone, it is never a good thing, it might be a sign for skin problem. Big brother Lew, don't worry, I will not lose myself and always believe in love. Thanks for being there for me all these while!

Move that ass and squeeze some sweat!!!

Gyming is a real enjoyment... not only to maintain/create that nice figure of yours, but also a way to release out all the tension and stress from a day of hardwork. But when you are hitting the automated "runway" and the journey seems to be never ending while minutes turns to hours... When positivity exhausted out, this whole meaningful activities just became a torture... LOL

If one really think about it. The fact that we work out ass off at every gym session, besides the need to look nice and feel healthy after it, we are not the one who fully benefit from it. It is in fact the person whom we are with "enjoyed every part" of us.

A parallel illustration is that a girl who is granted with huge boobs, she was actually been condemned to be carrying that huge and heavy water bags in front of her for the rest of her life. Even when sleeping, that pressure that is instilled in her is so overwhelming! So how is the one who is lucky in this scenario? It is actually the husband! He don't have to carry that water bag walking around while he enjoyed every bit of it day in day out! Irony isn't it..

Definition of being NICE...

"But it wasn't the fact that she was immature or what and she is nice to me..." Sound extremely familiar to me... Yesterday night, while I was driving back, my University buddy called me. He needed a listening ear about his problematic relationship.

The phrase, "she is nice to me" strike me hard as I recalled that was one of the reason where it blind the logical me and petrol up the emotional me in most of my relationship. Words of wisdom from my good friend who are still stuck in Utah, the place with thousands of mountains, once said to me, that it is just so me to say that his person is nice and that person is nice etc. But what is really nice?

The word "nice" has been widely used that the significance has never been felt. Does buying a Gucci wallet for you define that person to be nice to you? Or is it when that person bring you out on a holiday makes him/her the best person in the world?

After playing the wild goose chase and knocking myself against the odds, bleeding profusely alone during my last battle with the highly anticipating love, i woke up from my idea... Nice to you should be a value coming from the heart, not thru the pocket. When a person is nice to you, he/she should empathize with you and having sweet gesture to relief you from tension. Walking into the room quietly when that person knows that you are sleeping, scratching your back when it is extremely itchy or just going to the temple to pray for your well-being when you are stress out. All these are just some actions that to most is negligible. However, it has to be triggered internally.

Personally, nice is a priority. A priority where you place another person before you. Conversely, it is so abstract that it can never be quantified.

This or that???

Since i was a kid, there is always decision to be made. Holding on to my favourite ice-cream with chocolate coating, thinking should i eat that lollipop instead. Being a Pisces myself, guess i am always challenged by decision making and never proved to be good at it. People might relate this to indecision nature of me, i never did doubt on that.

When you put down a checklist on what are the stuff that you are looking for, life always work in such a way that things doesn't necessary goes as planned. Maybe that is challenges! In regards to a checklist, who ever decide which goes first and which is the least prioritised? I do agree that balance is the key. Have one heard of the song "Too Much" by Spice girls? That is exactly what it meant.

Back to the issue on decision making... a friend scream at me,"so what is it that you want?"

Character versus Appearance; if a box with a really nice packing but with a lousy plastic tasting chocolate makes you hate yourself for digging that few dollars in your wallet to make payment. on the other hand, a pack of choco with really heavenly taste but thrown in the plastic bag only makes you wonder the hygiene level of this food...

Have one wonder why is it that mobile phones being designed with only 80% of the desired function? (Great camera but sucky outlook, or great organiser function but lousy auto focus) Well, guess it is only for you to anticipate for the next new launch. Ironic it may sound but i do believe that this is parallel to decision making.

Maybe it is true that being complacent is really a virtue. Knowing it and practicing it only makes one happier. Am trying and keeping my fingers and toes all crossed. However, at this point of time, Buddha, I am so not...